Big boys don’t cry!

Big boys don’t cry! Well, says who? Do you remember the scene in “A Walk to Remember” where Jamie tells Landon that she has terminal leukemia and has stopped responding to treatments? Well, wasn’t Landon crying his eyes out while driving to his father. Wasn’t it cute? What say gals and guys?

For many, this might be cute and really romantic on screen but when it comes to reality they still are not comfortable with men crying. They want a man who is a man…to be correct a rugged man or a man made of steel. I asked a few of my friends (all of them in their twenties) what they thought about it and most of them accepted that they are not very comfortable with men who cry…they echoed the age-old “Guys who cry are mum’s boys” silly outlook.

“A knight in shining armour” who is tall, handsome, dark and has a rugged body somewhat like a Greek god – what the 20 of 25 girls (I was shocked!) called was their right man. Hope these girls don’t fall in love with the same boy! After all there aren’t many Greek gods or knights in shining armour left now! (You see them in museums…ok that was a lame joke)

So, what about the remaining 5…you must be thinking? You can thank God for creating these fearless women who don’t mind if their man cries his heart out. For them a man who is not afraid to cry or is unashamed when tears flow from his eyes is a DUDE because he can and knows how to let go.

“It’s the men who want to hide behind their rugged exterior and do not let the tears flow down make many women frightened” says Aparna, professor at one of the renowned colleges in Pune.  “It’s truly sad that guys don’t want to cry when they are sad. The only way they know to show their sadness is by being angry and violent” says Indira, an IT professional. She continues “I would rather marry a guy who is not ashamed to cry than one who expresses his pain via violence.”

And if you ask me I would say “I don’t give a shit how a man expresses his emotions as long as he is true and non violent”.


  • Well well…I do not find anything wrong with guys crying. It is a very normal activity to let emotions flow. Who wants a guy who would be happy with pent up emotions rather than sharing it with his beloved? For once lets be real and not parochial.

  • Cry.. Don’t Cry.. well I believe that Tears are words the heart can’t express … May be men do cry but while walking in the rain, ’cause then no-one knows He is crying. From the very day when men took charge of society (over women) he did that on his muscle power by showing that it’s only the his muscles which can save over barbaric civilization of that time and tears somehow get associated with weakness but he forgot that there is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are messengers of overwhelming grief…and unspeakable love. We men are really loosing something which women use it as weapon 😉

  • Ditto Kins 🙂

    Yeah Rana u guys surely r missing something in life!

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